“I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I’m going to learn, I must do it by listening.” Larry King
Listening seems to be a lost art. We have all heard about active listening. But how do you actually do that?
NLP has the answer.
But, first a joke. Do yo know why God created fleas?
To give dogs something to do!
According to the Guinness Book Of World Records Ms. Maria Teresa Calderon can read 80,000 words a minute with 100% comprehension. This illustrates the processing power of the human brain.
The average person talks at about 120 words a minute. Our brain has the processing power of 80,000 words a minute. When someone is talking we think about other things to keep our brain busy. This distracts us from paying attention to the speaker.
When we get distracted by our thoughts the speaker can feel the disconnect.
Here are a couple of things you can do to fully pay attention to the speaker. Match the speed of the speaker’s voice and their volume. Doing this task gives your brain something to do so you totally focus on the speaker.
Warning, this will feel weird at first!
Once you get the hang of paying attention to the speaker in this manner you will find it becomes effortless to do.
To the speaker it feels like you are totally paying attention to them. People who have met President Bill Clinton say, “He made me me feel like I was the most important person in the world. The President uses this technique.