When you feel lost in life, all along you thought it was the economy, your competitors, your education or your boss getting in the way. Then one day you discover the enemy is you! This doesn’t make 1 ounce of sense. We spent countless hours working, in dreaming of how we want our life to be. We spend a ton of effort trying to get what we want, in the way that we want so we can live happier and more productive lives.
Why do so many people struggle to build a life that they want?
I’m not sure why that’s happening for you. But I can share what was getting in the way for Marcy (not her real name) one of my clients.
Marcy knew with certainty that she is gonna build a great company. Every ounce of her being was focused on doing just that. She built a good company but nowhere close to being a great company. One day she realized the problem wasn’t external, something within her was blocking her progress.
This is what we discovered…
Marcy knew there was a better more confident version of herself waiting to come out. Marcy2.0 had an amazing staff around her. People that were committed, people that had passion, people that did whatever it took to get the job done. Her customers loved her and consistently sent her referrals and her family life was richer and more fulfilling.
Somewhere deep in Marcy’s unconscious mind, she had a belief that was getting in the way. “Who am I?”, this one thought kept getting in the way of her being bolder; it caused her to doubt herself in challenging situations; made her procrastinate in critical areas, and finally, this one thought was standing between her and the amazing Marcy 2.0.
Well underneath that thought, “Who am I?” was a belief that “I am a fraud.” If only Marcy had a better education, she would deserve to build a life that she wanted. If only Marcy had better connections, she would be able to get ahead faster. If only Marcy was better looking, people would help her move ahead faster.
Using Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) I was able to help Marcy transform that old limiting belief into a new empowering one. That I deserve success, became the new belief that allowed her to set aside the negative dialogue that had been sabotaging her efforts, and that I deserve success, allowed her to be bolder in her business dealings, that I deserve success, allowed her to be more confident with her staff and that I deserve success, allowed her to wholeheartedly go after her dream.
I’m not sure where you are in your life right now. But I do know if you are not getting the results you want, you need to figure it out. If you don’t know where you are they have a phrase for that, it’s called being lost. People never have a problem with the destination. They know what the dream is and know they are supposed to get out of it once they arrive. They know how amazing its gonna feel when they do get there.
But if you don’t know where you are you have no idea what direction to go in.
Take my self-assessment quiz and figure out where you are in life right now. From this foundation, you will be able to get the bearings you need to set out on the journey to build the life that you want.